- I received an interesting email asking
me to help explain the attraction of selfbondage. The question
have been asked many times before but I show it here anyway.
- Could I ask for your (and your website
fans) thoughts on this simple(?!) question:
"Is a person who practises self-bondage doing so because
they want to be tied up by somebody or because they want to tie
- This is my ansver:
I guess that an interest for selfbondage shows that you are both
dominant and submissive. You are in a dominant role when you
plan the adventure, you becomes the "slave" when you
click shut the last padlock. And we all know who is the strictest
Master/Mistress. Yourself! This naturally also leads to the safety
problems. There are simply no one there to help you if something
goes wrong. Planing, planing and planing is a must but does not
guarantee anything. But perhaps that is a part of the attraction
with selfbondage. We must always be reminded of how fragile life
is in order to really appreciate it.
- I personally only like selfbondage, getting
tied up by someone else have very little attraction for me. I
find selfbondage very relaxing and good for the mental health.
You would probably not get that idea when watching my site but
I almost never do any complicated scenarios and I absolutely
do not like pain. Sometimes it is just enough to be tied up for
some short time. It is very relaxing to know that there are no
way that you will get free so there are no need to fight the
bonds. It is a strange type of meditation I guess.
At other times, a more complicated set up can be rewarding for
other needs... There are such big rewards when doing selfbondage.
As you see, I did a poor job answering the question. Can someone
else answer it better?
- Email me with your thoughts.
- (The above emails have been edited and